Spontaneous

For some reason my groom thought I would be ready willing and alert to bond with him at 3:30 in the morning(not the 1st time).  Is it something that wakes them up to be ready to go.  If I'm in a deep sleep (snoring) why would he think I'm ready to bond.  I'm all about compromise, at least let me be up and get my mind ready.  Is that too much to ask or is it me?   I mean for me, before bed time would have been ideal, but he fell asleep downstairs on the couch.     Am I being too selfish, is he?  Please feel free to comment.